Marriage @ St. Jude of the Lake
Marriage is one of the most important commitments a person can make. The Catholic Church requires marriage preparation to help a couple understand and prepare for this commitment. The preparation process at St. Jude of the Lake is designed to help the couple build a solid foundation for a life-long covenant of love. A wedding is one day; a marriage is for the rest of your life.
The marriage process is outlined in the Marriage Preparation Booklet.
IMPORTANT! Either the bride or the groom or their parents must be registered and active members of the parish in order to celebrate a wedding in the parish. An active parishioner is one who participates regularly in the Sunday Eucharist and shares his/her time, talent and treasure with the parish community.
Preparing for Marriage
The preparation process begins at least six months before the proposed wedding date.
First, download our Marriage Preparation Booklet, the Wedding Music Planning Sheet, and Wedding Liturgy Form.
Please print a copy of the Wedding Liturgy Form, complete, scan, and return it to Deacon Frank Pavlick, fpavlick@stjudeofthelake.org. See below for suggestions of readings. Thank you.
Please print a copy of the Wedding Music Planning Sheet, complete, scan, and return it to Mary Scherber at mscherber@stjudeofthelake.org before meeting with her or your Wedding Coordinator. Thank you.
Next, schedule your first appointment by filling out the form below.
A wedding date is scheduled after consultation with the pastor and partial payment of the church booking. Please do not make any other arrangements until a wedding date has been approved by the parish.
Lastly, the required Wedding Workshop date for all couples entering into marriage during the 2025 calendar year will be Saturday, February 8 from 10:00 am to Noon. Please reserve this date in your calendars.
To pick your readings, see the list below.
Schedule an Appointment to Meet with the pastor
First Reading
Genesis 1:26-28, 31a
“Let us make man in our image, after our likeness. .
Genesis 2:18-24
The Lord God said: “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a suitable partner for him.” . .
Genesis 24:48-51, 58-67
“I bowed down in worship to the Lord, blessing the Lord, the God of my master Abraham . .
Jeremiah 31:31-32a, 33-34a
The days are coming, says the Lord, when I will make a new covenant with the house of Israel and the house of Judah. .
Proverbs 31:10-13, 19-20, 30-31
When one finds a worthy wife, her value is far beyond pearls. .
Sirach 26:1-4, 13-16 (Vg. 26:1-4, 16-21)
Blessed the husband of a good wife, twice-lengthened are his days . .
Song of Songs 2:8-10, 14, 16a; 8:6-7a
Hark! My lover—here he comes
springing across the mountains,
leaping across the hills. .
Tobit 7:6-14
Raguel said to him: “I will do it. She is yours according to the decree of the Book of Moses. Your marriage to her has been decided in heaven! . .
Tobit 8:4b-8
On their wedding night Tobiah arose from bed and said to his wife,
“Sister, get up. Let us pray and beg our Lord to have mercy on us and to grant us deliverance.” . .
Psalm
Psalm 33
The earth is full of the goodness of the Lord
Psalm 34
I will bless the Lord at all times
Psalm 34b
Taste and see the goodness of the Lord
Psalm 103
The Lord is kind and merciful
Psalm 112
Blessed the man who greatly delights in the Lord’s commands
Psalm 128
Blessed are those who fear the Lord
Psalm 145
How good is the Lord to all
Psalm 148
Let all praise the name of the Lord
Second Reading
Colossians 3:12-17
“Put on, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, heartfelt compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience . .”
1 Corinthians 6:13c-15a, 17-20
“The body is not for immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord is for the body; . .”
1 Corinthians 12:31-13:8a
Strive eagerly for the greatest spiritual gifts. . .
Ephesians 4:1-6
“I, a prisoner for the Lord, urge you to live in a manner worthy of the call you have received, . .”
Ephesians 5:2a, 21-33 (Long Form)
Live in love, as Christ loved us and handed himself over for us. . .
Ephesians 5:2a, 25-32
Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ loved the Church . .
Hebrews 13:1-4a, 5-6b
Let mutual love continue.
1 John 3:18-24
Children, let us love not in word or speech but in deed and truth.
1 John 4:7-12
Beloved, let us love one another, because love is of God . .
1 Peter 3:1-9
You wives should be subordinate to your husbands so that, even if some disobey the word, . .
Philippians 4:4-9
Rejoice in the Lord always. I shall say it again: rejoice!
Revelation 19:1, 5-9a
“I, John, heard what sounded like the loud voice of a great multitude in heaven, saying: “Alleluia! . .”
Romans 8:31b-35, 37-39
If God is for us, who can be against us?
Romans 12:1-2, 9-13
“I urge you, brothers and sisters, by the mercies of God, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, . .”
Romans 12:1-2, 9-18
“Let love be sincere; hate what is evil, hold on to what is good; . .”
Romans 15:1b-3a, 5-7, 13
“We ought to put up with the failings of the weak and not to please ourselves; . .”